Students and teachers have a common goal: that the students successfully learn all the required material. At first glance, the existence of a common goal should result in a conflict-free environment. However, in practice, the current education process has become very confrontational, especially during testing and grading: students come up with more and more sophisticated ways of cheating, while instructors use more and more complex tools to detect this cheating. Do we need to continue this arms race? Would it not be better to use the ideas of loving kindness and come up with a conflict-free teaching environment? In this paper, we analyze the reasons for the current conflicts, and we use this analyze to come up with a non-confrontational way of performing testing and grading, a way that we actually tested in a class.